Parenting to blossom Kids

= Introduction to UolWE books = It's an innovation in the way books have been looked at till now. We will provide more details shortly as we scale up.

= What is Parenting? =


 * 1) Parenting is becoming a matured kid to bring the same level of maturity and values which we have developed or expect the child to have within them. Kids, majorly pick up most of the habits, behaviour and values from the parents or people who are closely associated with the kids. Parenting does not mean that only parents should guide/teach the children, it is a collective responsibility of the entire family, society and the school in which the children go. Till date parenting, was restricted to only parents. However, as the child grows they interact more with people in the family, school and in the society. The carelessness in any of these areas will defeat the entire purpose of growing the child in the best possible way.
 * 2) Parenting does not mean to dictate or show your superiority to the child to make them follow or learn. Parenting means to inspire children to aspire for the best learnings, attitude, values and behaviours and enable them to set better standards in the society. Parenting is not an intellectual art but relates to wisdom of the people to help children understand the objective of our life and how to lead it properly by taking the best decisions which will help everyone. It makes children aware of what is good for them and how not to get influenced by anything wrong which they may see during their lifetime. Parenting is a beautiful and simple art to mould the children in the best possible way. However, the definition of parenting has been understood from a different perspective altogether. Parenting does not mean that people should be highly educated or qualified. Parenting of illiterate people in villages has been more successful to bring the best people on the earth.
 * 3) Parenting is nothing but growing the child in such a way that they can grow the standards of the society and the weaker sections of society to drive ecological equality and prosperity. Parenting will be successful when the child is able to leave the selfish attitude and think as "Aham Brahmasmi". This helps the children to leave their individual identity or the group identity easily and can relate to anyone and everyone, by understanding from their perspective. Such a child in the society will not cause any harm to anyone, without any wrong reasoning. They will be able to withhold goodness with the highest virtues and fight for the injustice to others, help the needy and will develop the courage to fight against crooked and wicked people in the best way possible who look to exploit people to control or dominate them.
 * 4) Parenting is also about ecological equality (Live and Let live) to ensure and understand that the earth is not just a habitat for humans. It has crore/10 million-plus species who are co-existing with us. Humans need to learn how we can co-exist with them and give them space which they require. We should limit our boundaries and ensure that we support their life and growth. Promoting healthy vegetarian and fruit-based diet will nourish the wisdom of the children, very quickly.
 * 5) Parenting does not mean only to just take care of your child. It means a collective responsibility to take care of every child and grow them equally well.
 * 6) Finally, parenting does not mean population explosion. One quality kid for One set of parents with the right parenting will help us to live peacefully, prosperous life with other species and nature.

= What are the challenges? =
 * 1) Today kids are treated as a product to get pleasure in the way what the parents, family members, society or the school think appropriate as per their standards.
 * 2) Parents do not want to take responsibility to grow the children, neither the family or the society. School also does not take responsibility in totality as they expect support from parents.
 * 3) Schooling education does not come anywhere closer to build/grow the best child. Schools themselves lack education and wisdom, as every educational institute is Commerical and is only a gateway to hoard excess wealth by doing business.
 * 4) What to do before planning for a kid is missing  Garbh sanskar  (Explore the link)
 * 5) What is the role of Mother/Father and why it is so important is also missed in today's fast-paced life, where wealth/Name is more important to the Mother/Father. Explore this link for details.
 * 6) No one in the world has brought sensitivity to parenting, as the most important task or duty in human life. This is the reason the values/virtues are falling from thousands of years instead of growing.
 * 7) Differentiation of children based on wealth and background of the parents is leading to inequality in the mind of children. Children also are interested to play only with those children whose parents are having good name in society or having good wealth.
 * 8) Growth of orphanages is helping parents to discard/leave their children very easily. Parents are not aware of family planning. Instead of educating the public, the stress is on promoting orphanages properly.
 * 9) Teachers and other education-related people are not having any great values through which they can bring inspiration and the real learnings in the children. Only qualification is being looked at and not the values which the teacher/educative person holds.
 * 10) There is no practical learning in schools to learn the real virtues and help them to earn properly in life. Everything happens in the closed classroom with only theory which is forgotten very quickly.
 * 11) Society, Media, Social networking sites, press, and other entities promote only junk/harmful information/habits which they like and think is right. This information makes the mind of the children and processes the same information as output.
 * 12) Children are not punished for wrongful acts at an early age and they are ignored for them to get confidence to do even the worst which we can see in criminals today. The criminal or so-called bad/wrong/defective people in the society are made during the childhood days with lack of care and attention from society/parents/family.
 * 13) Children are not rewarded or recognized in any school/society/family for noble/great acts in the best way possible when they do something right/better than what was expected out of them. This motivates and helps the child to do similar things/actions/attitude/behavior regularly and also promotes it in others.
 * 14) Child psychology is not understood by parents/teachers/society members and they only look at criticizing or differentiating with others. They cannot work on their strengths to bring improvements and are happy to just criticize the child or punish them for their wrong behavior.
 * 15) Higher expectations from children, from their parents and family members, which puts them under high stress even in childhood days.

= Why this has not been given attention and not solved with the current efforts =
 * 1) As human civilization, from thousands of years, we are just focussing on producing children out of the pleasure of sex (which is the actual reality which most of do not want to bring, it in the society). There is no accountability or sensitivity to ensure that children raise the standards of the highest human virtues known to us. All the virtues/ righteousness /values are only taught in stories and in books, the same cannot be seen in humans or children. People are happy to publish books, magazines, spirituality related books - everyone is happy to put up their thoughts on paper but the same cannot be seen in actions or in the people. There are very few people who demonstrate some of the virtues, which has still given us the hope to rebuild our human specie in a better way.
 * 2) We have imagined and accepted that this will be the state of life and we have never thought of raising the standards. Sustaining the current standards in the next generation is also becoming quite difficult. This is because of wrong/bad leaders/wealthy people who are leading/dominating/controlling the people. The wealthy/powerful want to safeguard their position and in order to do so, they cannot improve the great values in the people which can help in proper parenting. They feel happy when intellectual cunning and crooked people under them are developed which can help them to control/dominate people for even longer periods of time and this gets amplified several times down the chain and over the period of time. Wrong ethics and values are being promoted by leaders to ensure the loyalty of people to themselves. If the right ethics and values grow in society, people will not be with the leaders who want to dominate or control.
 * 3) Leaders of all countries fight and ensure that there are divisions every where in some form or other, with which they can sustain themselves. They always look at instigating divisions in innovative and creative forms with hobbies, sports, gods, country names, languages, food, cultures...etc. The hatred and jealousy thought process builds roots in children from society.
 * 4) People who are leading with great value systems are not being respected or grown or do not hold good wealth or power(very few numbers of people, enjoy a good life with the right values). This is the reason today parents and family members become afraid if the child follows good values and lives with innocence, which would only bring sufferings to the child. This is the reason society and the parents, do not want to preserve the innocence of the children to ensure that they can survive in society properly.
 * 5) Crooked thinking and building strategies to dominate/control for achieving a selfish purpose or to attain superiority/power is appreciated and is an acceptable trademark of a great leader and person in society . People want their children also to become famous like the historic or current leaders, so that they can get name/wealth in society.
 * 6) Most importantly, women who develop the society and family are not treated and respected properly. Women for earning wealth and name are beginning to lose all the great values, which is now an acceptable norm in society. Women are getting the right share in society in the last few years and are now getting an opportunity to create wealth with the right values and in a respectful way. However, a lot of work has to be done in this area.
 * 7) Working parents and family members are not able to spend quality time with their kids, due to hectic stress. Today, parenting is just a formality to show off in the society without any outcome. Wealth and name is given the highest attention and the development of kid(s), is not a moral responsibility of the parents. They look at buying it with their wealth in commercial schools.
 * 8) Finally, till now very few parents or families have understood what parenting is all about, in its real sense. Lack of awareness and if awareness is present, acceptability of parents/family to bring a change within themselves is not easy.

= What schools are doing currently to promote parenting and what can be done to make it better =
 * 1) Today schools and colleges are cognizant of the impact of good schooling with great virtues is very critical. They are building the capabilities, however, high-quality education comes with a very high cost as the ability to pay for the qualified and competent teachers with great curriculum with activities is very high. Commerical education setup looks to get a good profit from the schools which prevent them to scale up a good education. Bringing strong laws/policies to bring all the educational institutes as non-profit entities can solve the problem to some extent or driving or promoting non-profit entities who can give good competition to profit-making education systems can solve the problem.

= Why parents do not focus on their kids =

= What are the best techniques of parenting =

= How to solve the difficult challenges while parenting the toughest kids =

= How kids can also do parenting to their parents in parallel =

= What are the basics missed in our education and culture and how it can be fixed =