Parenting to blossom Kids

= Introduction to UolWE books = It's an innovation in the way books have been looked at till now. We will provide more details shortly as we scale up. The body and mind of a kid while taking birth is very neutral - the parents are adding their semen, blood and impressions on the child. Parents, family and the society designs and builds a child. We cannot improve and we expect our children to improve, how is it possible. Today parents do not know anything, still they look at teaching and testing their children - the opportunity is to learn from small kids and kids never look to teach or preach or dominate or control. They are filled with pure innocence and unconditional love.

However, our intellectual politicians and intellectual wealthy people - who wear a mask are not leaving the children also to get polluted and they do not feel ashamed as well. They only use only those skillsets which they have, big people want things to happen which they like and feel is correct - it may not keep them in comfort zone or may be in comfort zone - Ego becomes more predominant to save the prestige. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HpIVsN3x2po

= Parents -

मात्रता - How much can be given - Mother tries to give/grow the child, in the best possible way, basis what she has got as per the potential. पात्रता - How much a vessel can hold - Father gives the basic semen or characteristics which needs to be built on.

In some cases, the features and characteristics of the mother are dominant or that of the father. As the mother grows the child, its influence is very high and can mould the wrong input also into good or great. That is the power of a mother. The mother can make or break anything in the child to some extent. The impact on the child, is also from the ancestor's chromosomes present in the DNA/blood of the parents. They also influence the making of the child. Which characteristics need to be prominent, are decided during the pregnancy period. Accordingly, a new DNA emerges after few weeks of pregnancy. Pregnancy can be understood as a lab, where experiments happen. This is for species who take a similar process and it is different for other species. The need of describing this in detail, is that parents manifest the child and in some cases the environment/universe brings changes in the parents, for some time to get the desired output. This can be understood by the story of Prahalad. This signifies that giving birth is so critical and being aware of our inputs/purity/environment is so critical. Refer - https://kids.miraheze.org/wiki/Garbh_sanskar

= What is Parenting? =


 * 1) Parenting is becoming a matured kid to bring the same level of maturity and values which we have developed or expect the child to have within them. Kids, majorly pick up most of the habits, behaviour and values from the parents or people who are closely associated with the kids. Parenting does not mean that only parents should guide/teach the children, it is a collective responsibility of the entire family, society and the school in which the children go. Till date parenting, was restricted to only parents. However, as the child grows they interact more with people in the family, school and in the society. The carelessness in any of these areas will defeat the entire purpose of growing the child in the best possible way.
 * 2) Parenting does not mean to dictate or show your superiority to the child to make them follow or learn. Parenting means to inspire children to aspire for the best learnings, attitude, values and behaviours and enable them to set better standards in the society. Parenting is not an intellectual art but relates to wisdom of the people to help children understand the objective of our life and how to lead it properly by taking the best decisions which will help everyone. It makes children aware of what is good for them and how not to get influenced by anything wrong which they may see during their lifetime. Parenting is a beautiful and simple art to mould the children in the best possible way. However, the definition of parenting has been understood from a different perspective altogether. Parenting does not mean that people should be highly educated or qualified. Parenting of illiterate people in villages has been more successful to bring the best people on the earth.
 * 3) Parenting is nothing but growing the child in such a way that they can grow the standards of the society and the weaker sections of society to drive ecological equality and prosperity. Parenting will be successful when the child is able to leave the selfish attitude and think as "Aham Brahmasmi". This helps the children to leave their individual identity or the group identity easily and can relate to anyone and everyone, by understanding from their perspective. Such a child in the society will not cause any harm to anyone, without any wrong reasoning. They will be able to withhold goodness with the highest virtues and fight for the injustice to others, help the needy and will develop the courage to fight against crooked and wicked people in the best way possible who look to exploit people to control or dominate them.
 * 4) Parenting is also about ecological equality (Live and Let live) to ensure and understand that the earth is not just a habitat for humans. It has crore/10 million-plus species who are co-existing with us. Humans need to learn how we can co-exist with them and give them space which they require. We should limit our boundaries and ensure that we support their life and growth. Promoting healthy vegetarian and fruit-based diet will nourish the wisdom of the children, very quickly.
 * 5) Parenting does not mean only to just take care of your child. It means a collective responsibility to take care of every child and grow them equally well.
 * 6) Finally, parenting does not mean population explosion. One quality kid for One set of parents with the right parenting will help us to live peacefully, prosperous life with other species and nature.

= What are the challenges? =
 * 1) Today kids are treated as a product to get pleasure in the way what the parents, family members, society or the school think appropriate as per their standards.
 * 2) Parents do not want to take responsibility to grow the children, neither the family or the society. School also does not take responsibility in totality as they expect support from parents.
 * 3) Schooling education does not come anywhere closer to build/grow the best child. Schools themselves lack education and wisdom, as every educational institute is Commerical and is only a gateway to hoard excess wealth by doing business.
 * 4) What to do before planning for a kid is missing  Garbh sanskar  (Explore the link)
 * 5) What is the role of Mother/Father and why it is so important is also missed in today's fast-paced life, where wealth/Name is more important to the Mother/Father. Explore this link for details.
 * 6) No one in the world has brought sensitivity to parenting, as the most important task or duty in human life. This is the reason the values/virtues are falling from thousands of years instead of growing.
 * 7) Differentiation of children based on wealth and background of the parents is leading to inequality in the mind of children. Children also are interested to play only with those children whose parents are having good name in society or having good wealth.
 * 8) Growth of orphanages is helping parents to discard/leave their children very easily. Parents are not aware of family planning. Instead of educating the public, the stress is on promoting orphanages properly.
 * 9) Teachers and other education-related people are not having any great values through which they can bring inspiration and the real learnings in the children. Only qualification is being looked at and not the values which the teacher/educative person holds.
 * 10) There is no practical learning in schools to learn the real virtues and help them to earn properly in life. Everything happens in the closed classroom with only theory which is forgotten very quickly.
 * 11) Society, Media, Social networking sites, press, and other entities promote only junk/harmful information/habits which they like and think is right. This information makes the mind of the children and processes the same information as output.
 * 12) Children are not punished for wrongful acts at an early age and they are ignored for them to get confidence to do even the worst which we can see in criminals today. The criminal or so-called bad/wrong/defective people in the society are made during the childhood days with lack of care and attention from society/parents/family.
 * 13) Children are not rewarded or recognized in any school/society/family for noble/great acts in the best way possible when they do something right/better than what was expected out of them. This motivates and helps the child to do similar things/actions/attitude/behavior regularly and also promotes it in others.
 * 14) Child psychology is not understood by parents/teachers/society members and they only look at criticizing or differentiating with others. They cannot work on their strengths to bring improvements and are happy to just criticize the child or punish them for their wrong behavior.
 * 15) Higher expectations from children, from their parents and family members, which puts them under high stress even in childhood days.

= Why Parenting has not been given attention and the quality not improved with the current efforts =
 * 1) As human civilization, from thousands of years, we are just focussing on producing children out of the pleasure of sex (which is the actual reality which most of do not want to bring, it in the society). There is no accountability or sensitivity to ensure that children raise the standards of the highest human virtues known to us. All the virtues/ righteousness /values are only taught in stories and in books, the same cannot be seen in humans or children. People are happy to publish books, magazines, spirituality related books - everyone is happy to put up their thoughts on paper but the same cannot be seen in actions or in the people. There are very few people who demonstrate some of the virtues, which has still given us the hope to rebuild our human specie in a better way.
 * 2) We have imagined and accepted that this will be the state of life and we have never thought of raising the standards. Sustaining the current standards in the next generation is also becoming quite difficult. This is because of wrong/bad leaders/wealthy people who are leading/dominating/controlling the people. The wealthy/powerful want to safeguard their position and in order to do so, they cannot improve the great values in the people which can help in proper parenting. They feel happy when intellectual cunning and crooked people under them are developed which can help them to control/dominate people for even longer periods of time and this gets amplified several times down the chain and over the period of time. Wrong ethics and values are being promoted by leaders to ensure the loyalty of people to themselves. If the right ethics and values grow in society, people will not be with the leaders who want to dominate or control.
 * 3) Leaders of all countries fight and ensure that there are divisions every where in some form or other, with which they can sustain themselves. They always look at instigating divisions in innovative and creative forms with hobbies, sports, gods, country names, languages, food, cultures...etc. The hatred and jealousy thought process builds roots in children from society.
 * 4) People who are leading with great value systems are not being respected or grown or do not hold good wealth or power(very few numbers of people, enjoy a good life with the right values). This is the reason today parents and family members become afraid if the child follows good values and lives with innocence, which would only bring sufferings to the child. This is the reason society and the parents, do not want to preserve the innocence of the children to ensure that they can survive in society properly.
 * 5) Crooked thinking and building strategies to dominate/control for achieving a selfish purpose or to attain superiority/power is appreciated and is an acceptable trademark of a great leader and person in society . People want their children also to become famous like the historic or current leaders, so that they can get name/wealth in society.
 * 6) Most importantly, women who develop the society and family are not treated and respected properly. Women for earning wealth and name are beginning to lose all the great values, which is now an acceptable norm in society. Women are getting the right share in society in the last few years and are now getting an opportunity to create wealth with the right values and in a respectful way. However, a lot of work has to be done in this area.
 * 7) Working parents and family members are not able to spend quality time with their kids, due to hectic stress. Today, parenting is just a formality to show off in the society without any outcome. Wealth and name is given the highest attention and the development of kid(s), is not a moral responsibility of the parents. They look at buying it with their wealth in commercial schools.
 * 8) Finally, till now very few parents or families have understood what parenting is all about, in its real sense. Lack of awareness and if awareness is present, acceptability of parents/family to bring a change within themselves is not easy.

= What schools/Colleges are doing currently to promote parenting and what can be done to make it better =


 * 1) Today schools and colleges are cognizant of the impact of good schooling with great virtues is very critical. They are building the capabilities, however, high-quality education comes with a very high cost as the ability to pay for the qualified and competent teachers with great curriculum with activities is very high. Commerical education setup looks to get a good profit from the schools which prevent them to scale up a good education. Bringing strong laws/policies to bring all the educational institutes as non-profit transparent entities can solve the problem to some extent or driving or promoting high quality non-profit transparent entities who can give good competition to profit-making education systems can eradicate the concept of commercial education. Parents and society play an important role by discouraging profit models of education, everywhere.
 * 2) Current standards of education in the best countries like Finland, Japan, and South Korea also require a huge improvement. We need to transform the education system into a practical model of learning coupled with great values that can help them in their growth and earnings to sustain a fulfilling and prosperous life. UolWE is looking to build in collaboration with the support and inputs of all the educational and technological institutes to build a state of the art system to provide the best in class education which can bring ecological equality and prosperity to every specie and nature.
 * 3) The license to run any educational institute is basis the wealth, as there are shortage of educational institutes. The license to run education institutes and bodies is with people who lack values and have a huge ego or are just intellectually competent and lack real wisdom. Most of the heads, deans and principles are not open to change and their heads are full, they all run after their name and positions. The people who run most of the educational institutes need to be counseled and trained to bring real transformation in society, which can aid in proper parenting. The licensing system to run any small tutions to colleges also should be very stringent with a limited period and should be renewed on satisfying the set standards. UolWE, is looking to build a mechanism that will help in evaluating the standards of all the educational institutes and showcasing the gaps and steps which need to be taken to renew the license, periodically.
 * 4) Schools and colleges are missing to ingrain the right actions/thoughts, everything is in theory and there is no consequence in the society for missing those morals and ideals. Schools and colleges gain more popularity when a student are able to earn/hoard excess wealth than required. Students are not known for their values/actions which help the society, but are known for their intellectual knowledge alone and it is irrelevant in the society on how they are utilizing it.
 * 5) Schools and colleges have built traction with the parents and update the progress of the child regularly. However, everything is on intellectual grounds. Most of the people do not even learn the best decision-making and character-building skills in the best universities in the world. Making student aware of wisdom while they are in elementary schools and building their foundation to move in the right path will bring the recovery. Bringing awareness about wisdom and Kragya_क्रज्ञा_सरसा_(नवीन) (Click link to explore) and making them work on practical grounds will help the society to recover faster to build a right environment for parenting.
 * 6) Change management implementation is not taught in the worlds best and costliest universities properly. Opportunity to teach "Change management and self-inspiration to set higher standards" to children from primary schooling and build up gradually as they progress.

= Why parents do not focus on their kids =


 * 1) There is no social pressure to develop their kids. Parents have more pressure to earn, which can support the education of their children; which is becoming more costly.
 * 2) Parents worry only when the kids grow up, due to lack of awareness. However, they do not understand the value of spending time and guiding their children when they are below 14 years. Most of the mind and character of the child is built in the first 7 years and rest in next 7 years. There is very little scope to bring change when the children grow up, unless they get a very good environment that can support the change.
 * 3) Parents themselves are addicted to wrong habits and kids watch them regularly which forms their input and kids get influenced with the habits of parents and family members. Parents cannot showcase even rising early, bringing cleanliness, doing some exercises or start eating healthy food or helping people.
 * 4) Today everyone lives in a highly egoistic society and parents demonstrate an egoistic attitude to sustain themselves with the family/society, which creates a strong impression on the children. Parents and family try to support their actions and behaviours and blame others to save themselves. No one actually thinks about the children, who are getting impacted.
 * 5) Mobile, social networking sites, Media, entertainment, friends, get-togethers and stress busters take away most of the time which remains after a hectic schedule to earn. The time to spend with the children is drastically reduced.
 * 6) Parents cannot think like a kid or become like their friend because of the superiority attitude. They are not open to learning with the child and understand their perspective as well.
 * 7) Parents do not take them in society building program in case if they participate, as that is not the norm in society.
 * 8) Parents/family are always guided on how to do parenting, they are not self-inspired nor motivated to a huge extent.
 * 9) Parents even after they become aware of some best practices of parenting, adapting to the change becomes quite difficult after a certain age and they start finding excuses.
 * 10) Parents want to keep their children in the comfort zone because of their love and they do not want their children to face any difficulties which common children face. They want to keep the superiority of their child and make them feel superior to others. This happens subconsciously and parents are not willing to accept the fact.
 * 11) Parents do not want their children to go out in society or in the market independently till they reach higher education - as they do not have time to support such activities.
 * 12) Parents- teacher meeting is just an intellectual discussion on learning and does not focus on real parenting which makes the child useful to the society and the family.

= Simplistic techniques of parenting to blossom kids, in spite of all the challenges/obstacles =


 * 1) Parenting is a natural phenomenon that happens with natural love for our children. However, we should look at moving our children from their comfort zone and bring inspiration to learn and do new things by themselves and help them to experiment and be creative while learning in their own way. By giving them the freedom to learn and get inspired by themselves, the efforts which parents/teachers will put in the long term will get reduced automatically.
 * 2) People/parents, who are with kid should be like a matured kid and understand their psychology and beliefs from their point of view while guiding them and parenting should be done by providing logical reasoning, instead of showing fear or telling them about adverse consequences. Children may become stubborn and they will get habituated to work/behave only when there is some fear, which is not good in the longterm.
 * 3) Cut down you unnecessary activities which can be avoided on mobile, media, entertainment, going out ..etc and focus that time with your child and try to learn from them instead of teaching. (This will help them more in learning much quicker as they have to teach you)
 * 4) Governments and all the private entities can start offices early in the day, this helps parents to spend good time with the children every day instead of just holidays.
 * 5) When the kids are smaller below 14 years, try to spend as much time with them and look at interacting by playing games which can aid in learning, outdoor games and family activities which can help the overall enviornment better. Adults needs to move out of their shy zone and become like kids, which will be a stress buster as well, in today's hectic life.
 * 6) Do not put in very hi-fi school instead send them to a normal school which is in your budget. UolWE is looking to ensure that quality world-class education should be available at a very nominal price which can be affordable by most of the people, very easily in a very innovative way across the world.
 * 7) Plan for your child very carefully (Garbh_sanskar Click to read) and it is better to have only one quality kid - This helps in managing your life in the best way and enjoy it as well. Weather the child is a girl or boy - after marriage all the parents of the bride and groom can live together with combined wealth more comfortably. If you already have one kid, think of making the kid better.
 * 8) Take your kid in society and social activities as much as you can and help them identify the mistakes which bigger people generally do. Take them to meetings, where decisions are taken and let them observe and if possible involve them in whatever way possible. If you are not going to any social activities, start doing it.
 * 9) Make your child do all their work by themselves even when they are a small toddler - never spoon-feed them anything. Give them household work and ask them to contribute and if the same is done in the school or in any other place it will be even great. If you are literate and have access to technology -  Ask your child to write news articles, observations on the trips, help them in creating their own blogs,
 * 10) Make your child learn collaboration and work with the teachers to provide activities that can help them in collaborating and learn teamwork. Allow the child to interact with everyone around without any differentiation of any sort and look at making your child vegan which will be great contribution from you to make other animals live peacefully.
 * 11) Practical based learning with high-value system to grow wisdom will be the new transformation to earn. Innovation and creativity will be promoted everywhere for the child to explore their hidden potential.
 * 12) People, if they teach their kids to help others similar to family members without any bias. It will automatically make other Families/society to look at every child equally. This will ensure everyone better returns and help from all the children. Even by growing one kid, we will be able to get support from multiple kids in the longterm. Win-Win for the kids, parents, society and nature.
 * 13) Develop society/organizations/governing leaders who are not selfish and are able to contribute back to society. This will amplify the love and care automatically everywhere and help in building great values and help in setting better standards.
 * 14) Do not look at spoiling the innocence of the child and make the child understand to take proper decisions quite early and give the freedom to the child to ask questions/status quo and why's of everything. If you do not have answers guide them to people or ask them to research the internet by themselves. This will open up self-learning by enquiry which will make your child independent to learn anything quite easily.
 * 15) Exams do not help children in any way apart from memory retention, instead encourage children to participate in activities, events and practicals which will help them to get experience which will be long lasting.
 * 16) Wealth creation should be supported with good values and excess wealth if invested in the welfare of the society will help in the growth of a stress-free life which will be beneficial and help the children to grow properly.
 * 17) Imbibe great qualities, both in yourself and in your children instead of just reading literature, without following it. Practise Truth, honesty and integrity.
 * 18) Develop prayers that will help everyone understand what to do in our life daily to develop great values in society.
 * 19) Make children nature lovers and sensitive to all the species - by doing this everyone will be benefited as such children will never cause any harm to anyone without any strong logical reason.
 * 20) Punish children for the wrong activities or work and reward them appropriately for all the good work they do in the best way possible. Do not set high expectations and help them to create their own goals and dreams and work towards achieving them. Children will work hard by themselves and your efforts will automatically be reduced.

= How to solve the difficult challenges while parenting the toughest kids =
 * 1) Do not criticize the children always. Look at appreciating the kid whenever and where ever possible and reward the kid with something which they like and which you can offer them. This makes the kid to listen to you very quickly.
 * 2) Explain the benefits to them and impact which they will face in the long term while they are in a good mood and that in a very casual way, when they are playing.
 * 3) Do not force anything on the kid directly. Look at working around with teachers, friends and society members or anyone through which the kid can understand quickly. Avoid showing fear as much as possible.
 * 4) Do not hesitate to punish the child and do not tolerate any wrong repeated behavior which is not acceptable beyond a certain limit; after making them understand in the best ways possible. Not punishing the kid will make that as a habit and will not lead to any improvement in the future as well. Kids, generally understand quickly, so the need of punishment should arise very very rare.
 * 5) Look at putting them in an environment/boarding school/relatives away from you for some short duration of time - which can help in bringing the change.
 * 6) Try to understand friends of the kid and ensure that they play and mingle with kids who can bring inspiration.
 * 7) Make them learn meditation and yoga every day and focus on giving them sattvic food, which can help them in better thought processes.

= How kids can also do parenting to their parents in parallel =
 * 1) Today kids are very smart and can help us learn somethings better and new. Encourage children always to teach you someting new which they are learning. This will open up the channel between you and your kid to learn and teach both.
 * 2) Do not be like a parent, be like a friend who can discuss anything and everything which is happening in their life. This helps the child to tell you something, very easily which they do not like. Learn to take feedback and see how it can be worked around to make your selves better.
 * 3) No matter how big you are, there are always learning opportunities from children. This will benefit you to drop your ego and make your child grow better.
 * 4) Accept mistakes when the children point out and look at improving them. This makes you better and helps you to develop a better relationship with your kid.
 * 5) Do not be in a superiority attitude that you know more than what the kid knows. This will harm the relationship, instead, look at guiding the child wherever they require help.